my brother Chaitanya posted this on his FB:
An adult may come to love another because of the other's characteristics; but it is the other person, and not the characteristics, that is loved. The love is not transferrable to someone else with the same characteristics, even to one who "scores" higher for these characteristics. And the love endures through changes of the characteristics that gave rise to it. One loves the particular person one actually encountered. Why love is historical, attaching to persons in this way and not to characteristics, is an interesting and puzzling question. - Robert Nozick
Which created a mild flurry of discussion. well, not flurry really, but i posted questions a few time.
i've been pondering the nature of love lately. what the hell is it? commitment? chemistry? where does it come from? why to one person and not another?
Nozick's quote both comforts and frightens me.
i have no answers. do you?